«the man went to his mistress, but he lives with me!» In such, slightly schizophrenic, situations are many women. Some of them write to me. For the last two months, I received several emails from my readers where the situation — as a blueprint.There lived, not grieve, and raise children were still very young, and suddenly — a bolt from the blue. The man went to his mistress.
But gone weird. Declared that he even moved some things — and still lives at home. Cares about the children, the wife sometimes smiles, gifts trying to do.
And not defined. What can I do, how can we be?
Well, let me share my view based on experience and observations. I must say — the husband can be returned, but it requires a huge effort. So enormous that I doubt that they are appropriate.
What’s going on?
In all situations (those that I sent in the mail or those that I watched myself) have one thing in common — with small children. Generally — up to five years. Most often — not more than three. And it — for a reason.
High probability that, immersed in the cares of the child, both spouses become good parents, but spouses to be stopped. This is a common situation — no one is immune.
When the couple cease to be spouses, Continue reading
As a boy to raise a man
Women can often hear the regret that today’s boys lack male parenting, and as a result lack of male parenting men do not manifest themselves in a masculine way.
This is a huge however, only are we ready for such education, including whether women themselves to make difficult the norms of male parenting, education like men? The belief “Men don’t cry” is a required part of men’s education. I think this is a good believe that it should be applied with discernment and intelligence.
Itself to cry, do not be ashamed and not harmful. Good to cry from joy, to cry at the funeral, where appropriate and customary. But in other situations where children and women can cry, men do not. Men don’t cry, because for them it is usually pointless, and to be boys, we have a strong and reasonable people.
This is not all know, but for men crying is pointless. For women it’s different: if the woman mount, and she cried, she usually becomes easier, woman crying helps to cope with emotional pain. While the men have all wrong, their grief and their pain are not crying eases, no.
Women believe in it with difficulty, but it’s true – tears from men not easier. If a man against his tears, they cause him protest and additional internal stress. Continue reading
All parents naturally want the child was smart, healthy, well-mannered, quiet. Just not everyone realizes that the child is basically trying to take their cue from their parents, trying to be like them and copy their model of behavior. The children receive from parents, not only those features that are transmitted genetically, but also a great influence on the formation of their character is the family education. Therefore, in the first place, to start nurturing with yourself.
To properly educate a child is difficult, and children, in this case, become adult the exam of life. The children are both advantages and disadvantages of their parents. But the disadvantages need to fight, and then in life get better. It will be very important to understand that only the weed itself grows, and cultural plant needs in work and love. How much time you need to invest in their children to grow up as worthy citizens.
The family influence on child rearing
The most important people in the life of the unborn child will be the people who raise him. Therefore, to learn the qualities of character he’ll be raising his family. The child will absorb the reactions and attitudes of their parents, to try to be loved and accepted by them. And it is the adoption of family and love will be initially, to nurture and to give Continue reading