At all times the main influence on the formation and development of personality provided by the family. The stability of its environment is an important factor in emotional balance and mental health of the child. Of particular importance is “quality” of the family and its educational capacity, the loss of which leads to serious disturbances in the process of socialization. In modern conditions the number of data breaches is growing not only in the so-called anti-social families, but outwardly very successful. If the first be the object of attention and the social, pedagogical and psychological services, the latter are left to themselves. They desocializing effect is due to the pedagogical insolvency or conflict.Often parents do not realize the harmful influence of their own relationship to the child. However, errors in education, the inability of parents to constructively resolve their own problems, can lead to deep deformations in the formation of the psyche and the formation of personal qualities of children, which inevitably leads to desocialization in society.
Not every family has such an ability and desire to seek help. Meanwhile, from the disturbance of family communication and destructive marital relationship suffer more and more children and adults, which can not but cause concern. Continue reading
«the man went to his mistress, but he lives with me!» In such, slightly schizophrenic, situations are many women. Some of them write to me. For the last two months, I received several emails from my readers where the situation — as a blueprint.There lived, not grieve, and raise children were still very young, and suddenly — a bolt from the blue. The man went to his mistress.
But gone weird. Declared that he even moved some things — and still lives at home. Cares about the children, the wife sometimes smiles, gifts trying to do.
And not defined. What can I do, how can we be?
Well, let me share my view based on experience and observations. I must say — the husband can be returned, but it requires a huge effort. So enormous that I doubt that they are appropriate.
What’s going on?
In all situations (those that I sent in the mail or those that I watched myself) have one thing in common — with small children. Generally — up to five years. Most often — not more than three. And it — for a reason.
High probability that, immersed in the cares of the child, both spouses become good parents, but spouses to be stopped. This is a common situation — no one is immune.
When the couple cease to be spouses, Continue reading
Parents become unbearable, quarrelling with the child and with each other because of his education ( M. Mead “Child development”( )). And in this case, when raising children in an atmosphere of constant quarrels, fights, misunderstandings in the family the child is cultivated and enhanced by their inability to contain immediate emotional reactions, anxiety, conflict. Infected irritability adults, children carry it on his / her immediate environment – peers. And, I want to repeat that in the younger preschool age children “adults act as carriers of models of action and relationships in the world” (B. alcone( )). And, of course, at this age in the first place such samples are parents.
The impact of family management on the assimilation of the aggressive behavior of children.
The issues of family education and the influence of family relationships on the child have been developed in the framework of the psycho-pedagogical approach (K. D. Ushinsky, A. S. Makarenko, V. A. Sukhomlinsky, E. A. Arkin, A. N. Leont’ev, A. V. Zaporozhets, N. And.Lisin, V. K. Capirlo, etc.).
The authors dealing with this issue assign an important role of early experience of raising a child in a specific cultural environment, family traditions and emotional background of the relationship Continue reading