So we graduated to playing in the sandbox. And, of course, faced with the very serious problem of joint games – the “sand war”. This is the problem child of greed.
In our yard the kids very much, and of different ages. So you have to deal with very different situations. Here we will talk today.
Let’s start with the question: “greed”
The issue of “child of greed” is beginning to worry the parents when their child is about 1.5 years.
During this period, the baby begins a new round of psychological development: an awareness of oneself as an independent person. Therefore, to talk about children’s greed, and even more so to call her baby “greedy” in this age it is still early. After all, the child learns to realize that he himself, and his personal belongings are untouchable.
And how parents behave at this age the baby will depend on who your child will grow: greedy, generous, or not able to refuse.
Psychologists have observed that a child whose parents were violently forced to share growing up:
* begin to act contrary to the actions of adults and become greedy in the slightest, guided by the principle of “yeah, I was banned, and now I’m a big, all can and won’t let nobody”
* can’t say no to others. After all, at a time Continue reading
«the man went to his mistress, but he lives with me!» In such, slightly schizophrenic, situations are many women. Some of them write to me. For the last two months, I received several emails from my readers where the situation — as a blueprint.There lived, not grieve, and raise children were still very young, and suddenly — a bolt from the blue. The man went to his mistress.
But gone weird. Declared that he even moved some things — and still lives at home. Cares about the children, the wife sometimes smiles, gifts trying to do.
And not defined. What can I do, how can we be?
Well, let me share my view based on experience and observations. I must say — the husband can be returned, but it requires a huge effort. So enormous that I doubt that they are appropriate.
What’s going on?
In all situations (those that I sent in the mail or those that I watched myself) have one thing in common — with small children. Generally — up to five years. Most often — not more than three. And it — for a reason.
High probability that, immersed in the cares of the child, both spouses become good parents, but spouses to be stopped. This is a common situation — no one is immune.
When the couple cease to be spouses, Continue reading
As a boy to raise a man
Women can often hear the regret that today’s boys lack male parenting, and as a result lack of male parenting men do not manifest themselves in a masculine way.
This is a huge however, only are we ready for such education, including whether women themselves to make difficult the norms of male parenting, education like men? The belief “Men don’t cry” is a required part of men’s education. I think this is a good believe that it should be applied with discernment and intelligence.
Itself to cry, do not be ashamed and not harmful. Good to cry from joy, to cry at the funeral, where appropriate and customary. But in other situations where children and women can cry, men do not. Men don’t cry, because for them it is usually pointless, and to be boys, we have a strong and reasonable people.
This is not all know, but for men crying is pointless. For women it’s different: if the woman mount, and she cried, she usually becomes easier, woman crying helps to cope with emotional pain. While the men have all wrong, their grief and their pain are not crying eases, no.
Women believe in it with difficulty, but it’s true – tears from men not easier. If a man against his tears, they cause him protest and additional internal stress. Continue reading