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Desocializing the influence of marital relationships on personality development of the child

At all times the main influence on the formation and development of personality provided by the family. The stability of its environment is an important factor in emotional balance and mental health of the child. Of particular importance is “quality” of the family and its educational capacity, the loss of which leads to serious disturbances in the process of socialization. In modern conditions the number of data breaches is growing not only in the so-called anti-social families, but outwardly very successful. If the first be the object of attention and the social, pedagogical and psychological services, the latter are left to themselves. They desocializing effect is due to the pedagogical insolvency or conflict.Often parents do not realize the harmful influence of their own relationship to the child. However, errors in education, the inability of parents to constructively resolve their own problems, can lead to deep deformations in the formation of the psyche and the formation of personal qualities of children, which inevitably leads to desocialization in society.

Not every family has such an ability and desire to seek help. Meanwhile, from the disturbance of family communication and destructive marital relationship suffer more and more children and adults, which can not but cause concern.

Non-socialization is a violation of the process and outcome of the assimilation of social experience arising from the alienation of individuals from the institutions that are the carriers of the generally accepted norms of morality and law. This violation takes place under the influence of negative factors that lead to social maladjustment, often illegal, to deformation of the system of internal control, the distortion of values and normative attitudes and anti-social orientation of the individual. Antisocial behavior, differing in both content and degree of public danger, may be manifested in different social deviations, from violations of the norms of morality and law, minor offences to serious crimes. Alcoholism, drug addiction, mental illness, aggressive, suicidal, illegal behavior, and these are just a few of the forms of manifestation of social deviations minors.

The family is a multifunctional system, which is the most important institution of socialization, the source of the first experience of social interaction, which for some time remained the only child. Socialization in the family occurs as the result of a purposeful process of upbringing and the mechanism of social learning. Educational function of the family is actually implemented not only in the form of a conscious and purposeful pedagogical influence of parents on children, but also by the whole atmosphere of family life. We can distinguish three main components of family influence on the socialization process: composition, cohesion, quality of communication.

In the absence of a parent, low degree of cohesion and the violation of interpersonal communication in the family is desocialization factor in the development of personality.

There are direct and indirect desocializing influence.

First my family, openly demonstrating antisocial behavior and antisocial orientation, speaking, thus, the Institute of desocialization. These include criminal, immoral family.

Indirect desocializing influence is the lack of necessary conditions, unorganized properly caring environment, especially the so-called conflict and pedagogically unsound families who more often due to psychological reasons (lack of respect and understanding between spouses, emotional alienation, frequent conflicts) lose their impact on children.

The negative effect of disruption of the marital relationship on the child’s personality manifests itself due to the fact that it becomes: witness the constant quarrels quarrels and scandals, the object of conflicting emotional release parents, an instrument of conflict resolution.

Any marital conflicts witnessed by the child, to represent him a traumatic situation. It can be a source of increased excitability, anxiety, fear, lead to neurosis and even to mental illness, and this leads to the disruption of the process of socialization of the younger man. Some children develop a tendency to denunciations, cynicism, they become distrustful, closed in itself, someone it generates exaggerated self-confidence. Growing neglect and lack of control of behavior, decreases a child’s ability to social adaptation, increase the defects of moral order, can develop aggressive traits due to the protective reaction of the psyche, the inner self, the child may no longer be trusted not only to parents but to all others who.

Thus, it is possible to conclude that a violation of the conjugal relationship has a destructive influence on the formation of child’s personality, and often not less pernicious than the open demonstration of antisocial behavior criminal-immoral families. Indirect desocializing impact pedagogically unsound, conflict families can cause a variety of anti-social manifestations in the form of formation of deviant behavior.


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