For example, a child taking someone else’s toy, does so in accordance with their wishes. This spontaneous outburst: why not just take it without asking any thing and not to play – these are internal arguments of the baby. Children because of age is difficult to control those sudden emotions. But if the child is taking someone else’s thing, often not aware that thereby causes a damage to another person, an adult understands this. There is even such a point of view that stealing is a hidden form of aggression. Through the assignment of another man asserts itself, experiencing the pleasure of stealing from achieving some success.
Another reason that compels people to steal, is the desire for collecting, when you steal everything that is bad, and even those things that are naturally there.
Painful urge to steal is called kleptomania (Greek: “klepto” – kidnapped, “mania” madness). Continue reading
So we graduated to playing in the sandbox. And, of course, faced with the very serious problem of joint games – the “sand war”. This is the problem child of greed.
In our yard the kids very much, and of different ages. So you have to deal with very different situations. Here we will talk today.
Let’s start with the question: “greed”
The issue of “child of greed” is beginning to worry the parents when their child is about 1.5 years.
During this period, the baby begins a new round of psychological development: an awareness of oneself as an independent person. Therefore, to talk about children’s greed, and even more so to call her baby “greedy” in this age it is still early. After all, the child learns to realize that he himself, and his personal belongings are untouchable.
And how parents behave at this age the baby will depend on who your child will grow: greedy, generous, or not able to refuse.
Psychologists have observed that a child whose parents were violently forced to share growing up:
* begin to act contrary to the actions of adults and become greedy in the slightest, guided by the principle of “yeah, I was banned, and now I’m a big, all can and won’t let nobody”
* can’t say no to others. After all, at a time Continue reading
Parents become unbearable, quarrelling with the child and with each other because of his education ( M. Mead “Child development”( )). And in this case, when raising children in an atmosphere of constant quarrels, fights, misunderstandings in the family the child is cultivated and enhanced by their inability to contain immediate emotional reactions, anxiety, conflict. Infected irritability adults, children carry it on his / her immediate environment – peers. And, I want to repeat that in the younger preschool age children “adults act as carriers of models of action and relationships in the world” (B. alcone( )). And, of course, at this age in the first place such samples are parents.
The impact of family management on the assimilation of the aggressive behavior of children.
The issues of family education and the influence of family relationships on the child have been developed in the framework of the psycho-pedagogical approach (K. D. Ushinsky, A. S. Makarenko, V. A. Sukhomlinsky, E. A. Arkin, A. N. Leont’ev, A. V. Zaporozhets, N. And.Lisin, V. K. Capirlo, etc.).
The authors dealing with this issue assign an important role of early experience of raising a child in a specific cultural environment, family traditions and emotional background of the relationship Continue reading