“Alenka — good, good girl. But if something is not on it, it immediately begins to scream. This habit she had recently. What to do with it, I’ll never know?” “Three summer months the girl had grandparents in the village. Came back and started. Yells on occasion and without. Morning till evening, and hear her cries and lamentations. Why third put a spoonful of sugar when she asked two. She knows that I need to clean up their books. And all the shouting, screaming. People will listen, God knows what you will think!” The habit of screaming, arguing his innocence, is produced in children gradually. From day to day, from month to month they formed the belief that if they just ask, calmly state your requirements and wishes, it will not lead to the desired result.
Perhaps this belief arose because the adults are too long to impose upon the child his will. Perhaps, some of them quite successful in using this technique, that is, talking in a raised voice, not too restrained in the expression of emotions. The child is the same as a curved mirror that reflects what is happening in exaggerated form. He’s just a mimic us, and it seems Continue reading
As a boy to raise a man
Women can often hear the regret that today’s boys lack male parenting, and as a result lack of male parenting men do not manifest themselves in a masculine way.
This is a huge however, only are we ready for such education, including whether women themselves to make difficult the norms of male parenting, education like men? The belief “Men don’t cry” is a required part of men’s education. I think this is a good believe that it should be applied with discernment and intelligence.
Itself to cry, do not be ashamed and not harmful. Good to cry from joy, to cry at the funeral, where appropriate and customary. But in other situations where children and women can cry, men do not. Men don’t cry, because for them it is usually pointless, and to be boys, we have a strong and reasonable people.
This is not all know, but for men crying is pointless. For women it’s different: if the woman mount, and she cried, she usually becomes easier, woman crying helps to cope with emotional pain. While the men have all wrong, their grief and their pain are not crying eases, no.
Women believe in it with difficulty, but it’s true – tears from men not easier. If a man against his tears, they cause him protest and additional internal stress. Continue reading
As you know, habits are good and bad. All good habits of children parents consider its merit, and in the poor blaming the street, friends and, of course, school. You can often hear as a mother complains that her son was a good, sweet boy, but I went to school not to learn: constantly arguing, with all the quarrels, trying to offend. Grieving moms in this situation it is clear – we want to see in their children only the best quality. The more a shame when you have these qualities we try to instill.
But is it so much to be frightened by bad habits?
First, any habit is basically a need. Therefore to fight it by prohibitions and punishments often simply impossible.
Secondly, bad habits parents often consider those that don’t like them. Actually, the division habits good and bad is very relative.
Adults understand that when it comes to their own “oddities”. But to children, we tend to be more demanding.
Thirdly, the emergence of habits and inclinations are largely due to their personalities and upbringing in early childhood, so “bad” example – though the streets, though the school – not so terrible for the one who thanks to the parents and immediate environment from infancy learned what Continue reading