So we graduated to playing in the sandbox. And, of course, faced with the very serious problem of joint games – the “sand war”. This is the problem child of greed.
In our yard the kids very much, and of different ages. So you have to deal with very different situations. Here we will talk today.
Let’s start with the question: “greed”
The issue of “child of greed” is beginning to worry the parents when their child is about 1.5 years.
During this period, the baby begins a new round of psychological development: an awareness of oneself as an independent person. Therefore, to talk about children’s greed, and even more so to call her baby “greedy” in this age it is still early. After all, the child learns to realize that he himself, and his personal belongings are untouchable.
And how parents behave at this age the baby will depend on who your child will grow: greedy, generous, or not able to refuse.
Psychologists have observed that a child whose parents were violently forced to share growing up:
* begin to act contrary to the actions of adults and become greedy in the slightest, guided by the principle of “yeah, I was banned, and now I’m a big, all can and won’t let nobody”
* can’t say no to others. After all, at a time Continue reading
“Alenka — good, good girl. But if something is not on it, it immediately begins to scream. This habit she had recently. What to do with it, I’ll never know?” “Three summer months the girl had grandparents in the village. Came back and started. Yells on occasion and without. Morning till evening, and hear her cries and lamentations. Why third put a spoonful of sugar when she asked two. She knows that I need to clean up their books. And all the shouting, screaming. People will listen, God knows what you will think!” The habit of screaming, arguing his innocence, is produced in children gradually. From day to day, from month to month they formed the belief that if they just ask, calmly state your requirements and wishes, it will not lead to the desired result.
Perhaps this belief arose because the adults are too long to impose upon the child his will. Perhaps, some of them quite successful in using this technique, that is, talking in a raised voice, not too restrained in the expression of emotions. The child is the same as a curved mirror that reflects what is happening in exaggerated form. He’s just a mimic us, and it seems Continue reading
For anybody not a secret that our age is rapid. Perhaps that is why young parents, fearing to be late, hurry immediately after the birth of the baby to plan his future and solve the following problems: how old to sit with the child at home, whether to give him in a manger, whether to hire a nanny, what age do I have to invite specialists in early education of the child, which school to give to learn which universities will be worthy to receive the child after the end of the 11th grade. The above problems are not far-fetched, they have overcome almost all moms and dads, grandmothers and grandfathers. Solving them, it is difficult to consider many variables that make up our lives. All parents, trying to plan in advance and facilitate the child’s life, somehow believe that their child will be a genius: it will grow by leaps and bounds, possibly, will show musical ability, intellectual or artistic talent, brilliantly graduate…
However, everything in life, unfortunately, is much harder and more prosaic, and not always our dreams come true. But whatever it was, before almost all young parents face the question: to teach or not to teach the child? And most importantly, where to begin? A year, two, three?
There are many views on the problem of early child development: some Continue reading