“Alenka — good, good girl. But if something is not on it, it immediately begins to scream. This habit she had recently. What to do with it, I’ll never know?” “Three summer months the girl had grandparents in the village. Came back and started. Yells on occasion and without. Morning till evening, and hear her cries and lamentations. Why third put a spoonful of sugar when she asked two. She knows that I need to clean up their books. And all the shouting, screaming. People will listen, God knows what you will think!” The habit of screaming, arguing his innocence, is produced in children gradually. From day to day, from month to month they formed the belief that if they just ask, calmly state your requirements and wishes, it will not lead to the desired result.
Perhaps this belief arose because the adults are too long to impose upon the child his will. Perhaps, some of them quite successful in using this technique, that is, talking in a raised voice, not too restrained in the expression of emotions. The child is the same as a curved mirror that reflects what is happening in exaggerated form. He’s just a mimic us, and it seems Continue reading
As you know, habits are good and bad. All good habits of children parents consider its merit, and in the poor blaming the street, friends and, of course, school. You can often hear as a mother complains that her son was a good, sweet boy, but I went to school not to learn: constantly arguing, with all the quarrels, trying to offend. Grieving moms in this situation it is clear – we want to see in their children only the best quality. The more a shame when you have these qualities we try to instill.
But is it so much to be frightened by bad habits?
First, any habit is basically a need. Therefore to fight it by prohibitions and punishments often simply impossible.
Secondly, bad habits parents often consider those that don’t like them. Actually, the division habits good and bad is very relative.
Adults understand that when it comes to their own “oddities”. But to children, we tend to be more demanding.
Thirdly, the emergence of habits and inclinations are largely due to their personalities and upbringing in early childhood, so “bad” example – though the streets, though the school – not so terrible for the one who thanks to the parents and immediate environment from infancy learned what Continue reading
All parents naturally want the child was smart, healthy, well-mannered, quiet. Just not everyone realizes that the child is basically trying to take their cue from their parents, trying to be like them and copy their model of behavior. The children receive from parents, not only those features that are transmitted genetically, but also a great influence on the formation of their character is the family education. Therefore, in the first place, to start nurturing with yourself.
To properly educate a child is difficult, and children, in this case, become adult the exam of life. The children are both advantages and disadvantages of their parents. But the disadvantages need to fight, and then in life get better. It will be very important to understand that only the weed itself grows, and cultural plant needs in work and love. How much time you need to invest in their children to grow up as worthy citizens.
The family influence on child rearing
The most important people in the life of the unborn child will be the people who raise him. Therefore, to learn the qualities of character he’ll be raising his family. The child will absorb the reactions and attitudes of their parents, to try to be loved and accepted by them. And it is the adoption of family and love will be initially, to nurture and to give Continue reading