For example, a child taking someone else’s toy, does so in accordance with their wishes. This spontaneous outburst: why not just take it without asking any thing and not to play – these are internal arguments of the baby. Children because of age is difficult to control those sudden emotions. But if the child is taking someone else’s thing, often not aware that thereby causes a damage to another person, an adult understands this. There is even such a point of view that stealing is a hidden form of aggression. Through the assignment of another man asserts itself, experiencing the pleasure of stealing from achieving some success.
Another reason that compels people to steal, is the desire for collecting, when you steal everything that is bad, and even those things that are naturally there.
Painful urge to steal is called kleptomania (Greek: “klepto” – kidnapped, “mania” madness). Continue reading
At all times the main influence on the formation and development of personality provided by the family. The stability of its environment is an important factor in emotional balance and mental health of the child. Of particular importance is “quality” of the family and its educational capacity, the loss of which leads to serious disturbances in the process of socialization. In modern conditions the number of data breaches is growing not only in the so-called anti-social families, but outwardly very successful. If the first be the object of attention and the social, pedagogical and psychological services, the latter are left to themselves. They desocializing effect is due to the pedagogical insolvency or conflict.Often parents do not realize the harmful influence of their own relationship to the child. However, errors in education, the inability of parents to constructively resolve their own problems, can lead to deep deformations in the formation of the psyche and the formation of personal qualities of children, which inevitably leads to desocialization in society.
Not every family has such an ability and desire to seek help. Meanwhile, from the disturbance of family communication and destructive marital relationship suffer more and more children and adults, which can not but cause concern. Continue reading
So we graduated to playing in the sandbox. And, of course, faced with the very serious problem of joint games – the “sand war”. This is the problem child of greed.
In our yard the kids very much, and of different ages. So you have to deal with very different situations. Here we will talk today.
Let’s start with the question: “greed”
The issue of “child of greed” is beginning to worry the parents when their child is about 1.5 years.
During this period, the baby begins a new round of psychological development: an awareness of oneself as an independent person. Therefore, to talk about children’s greed, and even more so to call her baby “greedy” in this age it is still early. After all, the child learns to realize that he himself, and his personal belongings are untouchable.
And how parents behave at this age the baby will depend on who your child will grow: greedy, generous, or not able to refuse.
Psychologists have observed that a child whose parents were violently forced to share growing up:
* begin to act contrary to the actions of adults and become greedy in the slightest, guided by the principle of “yeah, I was banned, and now I’m a big, all can and won’t let nobody”
* can’t say no to others. After all, at a time Continue reading
“Alenka — good, good girl. But if something is not on it, it immediately begins to scream. This habit she had recently. What to do with it, I’ll never know?” “Three summer months the girl had grandparents in the village. Came back and started. Yells on occasion and without. Morning till evening, and hear her cries and lamentations. Why third put a spoonful of sugar when she asked two. She knows that I need to clean up their books. And all the shouting, screaming. People will listen, God knows what you will think!” The habit of screaming, arguing his innocence, is produced in children gradually. From day to day, from month to month they formed the belief that if they just ask, calmly state your requirements and wishes, it will not lead to the desired result.
Perhaps this belief arose because the adults are too long to impose upon the child his will. Perhaps, some of them quite successful in using this technique, that is, talking in a raised voice, not too restrained in the expression of emotions. The child is the same as a curved mirror that reflects what is happening in exaggerated form. He’s just a mimic us, and it seems Continue reading
«the man went to his mistress, but he lives with me!» In such, slightly schizophrenic, situations are many women. Some of them write to me. For the last two months, I received several emails from my readers where the situation — as a blueprint.There lived, not grieve, and raise children were still very young, and suddenly — a bolt from the blue. The man went to his mistress.
But gone weird. Declared that he even moved some things — and still lives at home. Cares about the children, the wife sometimes smiles, gifts trying to do.
And not defined. What can I do, how can we be?
Well, let me share my view based on experience and observations. I must say — the husband can be returned, but it requires a huge effort. So enormous that I doubt that they are appropriate.
What’s going on?
In all situations (those that I sent in the mail or those that I watched myself) have one thing in common — with small children. Generally — up to five years. Most often — not more than three. And it — for a reason.
High probability that, immersed in the cares of the child, both spouses become good parents, but spouses to be stopped. This is a common situation — no one is immune.
When the couple cease to be spouses, Continue reading